Communicating and Obtaining Consent
At OtterHalf, we emphasize the fundamental importance of consent in all interactions. We believe healthy relationships are built on mutual respect and clear communication. Consent should always be given freely, without any form of pressure, manipulation, or coercion.
Working alongside safety professionals and community advocates, we've developed guidance to help you navigate consent conversations and establish personal boundaries, whether you're chatting on OtterHalf or meeting in person.
- Consent makes connections better. When everyone clearly communicates what they're comfortable with and what crosses their boundaries, dating becomes more enjoyable and less stressful for everyone involved.
- Your preferences matter. Own them. Everyone has unique boundaries and preferences. Open, honest communication is essential as you get to know someone new.
- You have the power to choose. Feelings and comfort levels can change, so it's important to regularly check in about intimate topics, both in digital conversations and face-to-face. You always have the right to say yes or no.
- Honor others' limits. When someone declines or sets a boundary, respond with empathy and respect their decision without question or pushback.
- Listen to your instincts. If something doesn't feel right or you're not completely comfortable, you don't need to agree. Your comfort and safety come first.
Setting boundaries through clear communication:
Use direct, respectful language when discussing preferences to prevent misunderstandings. You might ask something like, "I'd like to understand your boundaries better. Are you comfortable discussing what you're looking for and what you're not?"
Establishing and maintaining your boundaries is completely valid. Support others when they set their own limits, and respond to "no" with grace and understanding.
Changing your mind is always okay:
People's feelings and comfort levels change over time. It's essential to regularly check in about intimate topics, whether you're messaging or meeting in person. Remember that consent given once doesn't apply to future interactions—each situation requires its own conversation.
You or your conversation partner might start feeling differently about a topic mid-conversation. That's completely normal. If you become uncomfortable, you can say something like: "I'm not comfortable continuing this conversation right now." When someone expresses discomfort, respond with support and understanding—a simple "That's totally fine" goes a long way.
Learning about each other's boundaries and preferences creates a safer environment and actually makes interactions more enjoyable for everyone.
We're here to help
Your safety and consent matter whether you're chatting on OtterHalf, texting off the app, or meeting in person. If someone crosses your boundaries or makes you feel uncomfortable at any point, we're here to support you and take action.
To report someone through the app, tap the three dots in the top right corner of their profile and select Report. You can also email us directly at hello@otterhalf.app